Sorry for your grief. We recently lost a loved one too and is a difficult process to move through.
Time does heal a little each day and the sun will shine again.
Crooked Lumpy Vessel
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She finally passed away
by LovesDubs inmy brother called me yesterday from california and told me his dear wife had finally passed away at 9:40 pst.
she fought long and hard and didnt go easily into the night.
if god wanted her home she wasnt going to go without a fight!
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Why did they not try to 'Save' me?
by AK - Jeff ini have pondered this question on many occasions.
when i began to have 'doubts' and began to 'question' some doctrine, and particularly the lack of christian love, very little effort was made to 'snatch me out of the fire' as elders are admonished to do.
i have always wondered why we as jw's would spend countless hours trying to start bible studies with 'wordly' people, while at the same time ignoring those who are moving away from dead center of the organization.
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Crooked Lumpy Vessel
I remember a talk at an assembly describing JWs as a circle with the most faithful being in the center and the wishy washy brothers and sisters around the outer ring.
I believe that talks like this and others like it cause division and self righteousness. These self righteous individuals are also only interested in their salvation. Like a sinking ship or a burning building. Save yourself!!!!
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Do you ever feel that the elders were your friends?
by JH inor do you feel that they were just company men, doing what they had to do, to keep people in line.
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Crooked Lumpy Vessel
and he just wanted to guilt me because, as he said, I was his wife's best friend and now she didn't have any friends.
It amazes me how our friendship was defined only by meeting attendance and field service. When I was unbaptized and I stopped going to the hall I always had phone calls and visits and guilt trips. After I was baptized and I stopped attending I did not get one visit. Not even a shepherding call. It's all about counting time.
My nephew got married and within 6 months his wife was cheating on him with a guy from work. He asked the elders for a sister to come visit and help her back on the straight and narrow. But since his wife was already baptized and no one could count the time, their were zero volunteers.
But to your original post...I met some cruel and mean elders and others were nice. But I do remember one in particular (Schwangler) that had a heart of gold.
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Your View On BREASTFEEDING In Public
by minimus inlast night on the news a woman was told by a store manager that she could not in public breastfeed her child.
she and her husband were quite offended and complained to the company's main offices.
they are now looking into this situation.. what's your opinion?
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Crooked Lumpy Vessel
Perfectly natural. I breastfed my youngster and sometimes I needed to do this in public places. I was very private about it. I concealed it pretty well no one really had a clue. I do remember a sister who had just whipped it out to feed her baby and I think my face went a little red. I just wasnt use to it so opened.
I hated the conventions where I had to trek up and down those tiny stairs with my newborn to the nursing mothers room. Back and forth....back and forth. Well, finally I just fed the little guy under my poncho and got a few dirty looks.
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Purpose...What is it
by Crooked Lumpy Vessel inafter losing my father-in-law last week, who is not a jw, but was a loving, kind and generous man, i find myself pondering that age old question about the purpose of life.
leaving the jw organization after 15 years, i am completely turned off to religion itself.
i am not even sure about the bible anymore.
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Crooked Lumpy Vessel
After losing my father-in-law last week, who is not a JW, but was a loving, kind and generous man, I find myself pondering that age old question about the purpose of life.
Leaving the JW organization after 15 years, I am completely turned off to religion itself. I am not even sure about the Bible anymore. I dont consider myself completely godless, but I do not participate in any religion. I mean, what human being really has it on good authority what happens when we pass away or what the meaning of life is? We are all but a head with 2 arms and 2 legs. What makes one person's ideas, theories or Philosophies anymore reliable than the guy next to him?
My brain tells me that if it is possible to live right now then it could be possible to live again. That life has to have a purpose otherwise this is all a big waste of time. But then we could just be someones ant farm and death is final and everlasting. Where can a person find comfort anymore?
Confused and grieving.
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Lost my father in law
by Crooked Lumpy Vessel inhe passed away on sunday.
he discovered and had removed melanoma from his back in december.
all seemed well and it was diagnosed that they had removed it successfully.
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He passed away on Sunday. He discovered and had removed melanoma from his back in December. All seemed well and it was diagnosed that they had removed it successfully. Then in March he was told that it was in his liver. He was getting ready for chemo and was on some medication in preparation for his treatment and then on Sunday he died. It all happended so fast.
My husband was trembling and saying things like "I'm not ready". It just broke my heart. He was such a wonderful grandfather too.
My 20 years of JW training tells me that he his just going to his grave. But I see my husband trying to grasp at a hope that his father will try to reach him in spirit. Since we are both ex-JWs I dont know what to believe anymore.
I am a strong person and can manage my grief pretty well. But I dont know how to comfort my husband during this difficult time. Of course I am making things as easy as possible for him by taking care of all the family/domestic responsibilities, but I dont want to assist his into a slump or depression.
Any suggestions on how to help him move through this difficult time onto a postive and healthy place without overwhelming my own mental health?
Thanks for letting me post.
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Another Math question to answer
by JeffT ina snail gets thrown down a fifty foot dry well.
everday he oozes up three feet, but slides down two feet every night when he's asleep.
how long does it take him to get out?.
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Crooked Lumpy Vessel
I was going to say 50 days
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CAN YOU ANSWER THIS QUESTION?
by Terry ina semi-famous math professional poses this question in a book i'm reading.. i find the answer to be counter-intuitive, but, entertaining.. here is the question:.
you buy a sack of spuds that weighs 100lbs and are told it is 99% water.. you leave the sack outside in the sun for a couple of days before bringing it inside to store.. you find the spuds are now only 98% water.. how much does the sack of spuds weigh?
(this is not a trick question.
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Crooked Lumpy Vessel
My guess would be 1 pound. Assuming that the water weight is not relavant.
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Has anyone else here heard about May 1st and what do you think about it?
by WildHorses ini heard about this on the hispanic channel the other night and looked it up just now and found this link.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1609256/posts.
they plan a one day boycott in which they will not spend one cent on that day.
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Crooked Lumpy Vessel
Generally its said that illegal immigrants work for less than minimum wage/under the table for jobs that Americans do not like to do (like picking apples), What will happen if illegals become legal. They will be eligible for minimum wage and benefits. Since minimum wage is consider poverty level, they would then have legal access to welfare benefits.
Look what they did to their own country.
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a By the love they have among themselves
by Crooked Lumpy Vessel ini dont know the hebrew word for fake love....but this is the love that i have seen over and over again.. last year my nephew married a sister from our hall.
this young man is a good hearted person and saved himself for marraige.
looking back now in hindsight, i dont think this sister was a virgin but i think she pretended as though she was one.
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What I also think is sad here is how imporant time is. Nobody is willing to help when they cant count their time. This goes to show the extent they are serving each other and not God. Do you think God would care how much time you spend in service? Only man cares about time issues, therefore in the end they are only serving man.
I was in a car group once where my study teacher was gossiping about another sister who visited a sick brother in the hospital and counted that as time. This sister was horrified that she counted that time blah blah. When I was in the hospital, my study teacher visited me, always and I mean always with study book in hand.
She was the one who put me in the hospital in the first place by placing guilt trips on me about my service time. I was 7.5 months pregnant and huge. Lost one twin already. I asked her to walk slow but she kept walking fast and she wpould snicker and giggle "im sorry I keep forgetting" Finally, after being in some pain I sat down in the car. The next day I was in the hospital bleeding extensively.
When word got out that I was in the hospital with a blood issue, JWs came out of the woodwork demanding that I do not receive blood. Well, that of course is another story. However, I did not take blood, as I thought I was being faithful, but now in hindsight I never realized how stupid that whole thing was.